FORLORN OLD AGE

What do you think what is this old aged lady below trying to think?



Does she need anything? Is she thinking if I was rich I wouldn’t be like this today? Or is she thinking if I was an actress? Who is she?Is she a mother of someone?Is she expecting something?...???

Our Mother and Father are our biggest assets. How much ever I write about them is less.But for me

Mothers are the strongest and the most wonderful women in the world. She is a nurse, care taker, housewife, business owner, mother, sister, daughter, and most important she is our BEST FRIEND.

She tries to protect you from every bad thing in the world. She feels the pain when you get hurt. Her stomach aches when you are hungry. She feels thirsty when you need water. Her one eye will be on us playing in park as she is scared of us getting hurt. She cooks the best food with all her love poured in it so that you become healthy. She feels satisfied when you eat food. She doesn’t sleep until she see you back home, even if she is lying on bed, her one part of the heart will be finding your presence, one ear will be expecting your footsteps at your home. She will be wide awake whole night when you are down with fever checking your temperature again and again. She is the person whose best wishes will be there for you forever.

Fathers are the person because of whom you are standing on your own legs. You are independent. Because of him you are self-esteemed, you are confident; you can talk to lot of people openly and confidently. He showed us the path and told how to travel, he didn’t travel with us but he made us travel and made us aware of the obstacles which he came across and we could come across in the path. He is the person who told us to be different from others. He taught us how to fight and protect yourself from any danger. He didn’t tell you no for anything even after he was not in the position to give you that thing, he somehow adjusted for you. He is the person who taught us to never crib about the past, just learn from it and move on. Always think about the next. He has always been your role model. His physical strength has always admired you. You always wanted to be like him.



Love your parents and Respect Old Age.



BECAUSE
You will be the one who will be sitting near the window thinking about your children and gazing stars whole night.
You will be the one who will cry reading some letter.
You will be the one who will see your own photos when you were young.
You will be the one waiting at the bottom of the hill thinking whether I can climb or not.
You will be the one who will be sitting at the balcony just watching the children playing your favourite game and you won’t be able to do anything other than just watch others and revive your memories of your best.

Love your parents. Appreciate your parents. Spend some quality time with them. If they are not here with you, at least call them and express your love for them. You tell your wife I Love you; you tell your boyfriend/ girlfriend I Love You. You even share your feelings with your normal friends saying Love You Yaar. Just tell them once…” I Love You Mom”, “I love You Dad”. That will make their day full of joy and satisfaction. They will feel good rather they will feel great. Their day will go with a beautiful smile on their face.

Remember guys, we are often so busy growing up but we are forgetting that they are growing old too. They were always with you in you every step of your life. Now it’s our time. This is the time they need us the most.

Will end with a line heard from one of my friend - 
Respect the OLD, when you are YOUNG. Help the WEAK, when you are STRONG. Forgive the FAULT, when you are RIGHT. Because one day in life you'll be Old, Weak, & Wrong.
And friends, yes...she is expecting something...
And that is some Time of yours & Love

Change your words Change your world

Once there was a beggar sitting on the road side on a cloth, with a tin near his legs and a cardboard on which it was written  "I M BLIND, HELP ME". People use to throw coins once or twice in an hour. He use to find those coins with his hands nearby from the sound caused due to coin hitting the ground ,gather those coins and put it inside that tin. This was happening almost everyday. Almost all educated people pass by , some put coins some just see and walk away, there were some who wanted to help but were not able to somehow. This was the routine followed around that beggar.

One day a lady looked at him and passed by but after going little further she stopped and came back towards him. She took out a black sketch pen from her purse and wrote some thing on the back of the cardboard and kept that newly written side towards people.That beggar felt her shoes.She got up and went away.And suddenly he marked that frequency of coins thrown towards him increased.Instead of 2-3 now 7-8 people threw coins in an hour.He didn't understood till the end of the day. And next day he realized that after that lady wrote something on that cardboard he started getting more money than before.Next day that same lady came towards him, he again felt the shoes and recollected her presence.He asked her what did you write y'day and she told I Wrote The Same But In Different Words.He told thanks to that lady and that lady went.

What she wrote was:
 "ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY ,AND I CANT SEE IT"

That's The Power Of Words

Mind(A Senseless Thought for IT People)

When you are working like hell not even thinking of your closed ones -> You can assume you are going through some emotional problem.

When you are not doing anything,Working from home and not responding properly -> You can assume you are confused with some or the other reason.

When you are working normally and trying to keep yourself busy but not laughing or cracking jokes ->Assume you are serious about something.

Problems

You come across similar problems level wise depending on your age.
Life is all about how you face it and you get over it.


We cannot say that experienced person doesn't face any problem but yeah definitely he/she can avoid it or get over it easily with minimal efforts.That person knows what to do in those scenario or such kind of scenario. He/She gets to know how to avoid that situation so that it doesn't come again and if he/she cannot avoid he/she knows how to get out of it.

So whenever you experience any kind of problem big or small don't get upset,just face it and think that that you will get over similar problem with less efforts next time.

Unspoken Words Are Always Better

Unspoken words are always good when compared to spoken one.
There are some situation when words are not spoken, you are good but once its out of someones mouth you feel "i shouldn't have hear it" or you feel sad or something.

For example In a competition when the anchor is about to share the results.There is always a thrill or some kind of expectation about hearing something good. But once its out 97 people out of 100 gets disappointed.
When a guy proposed a girl until she tell yes or no you always have a hope but once its out(depends on answer :p).
There are much serious examples but i guess its understood.

By Spoken words sometimes you get to hurt people unintentionally.But try that hurt is not verbal.You become slave of your words once they are out of your mouth.Physical wound gets healed easily and is forgotten but spoken words will never be forgotten.

If you hit someone and say sorry he/she will remember that until that wound gets healed but once you tell something diddly or awful and say sorry he/she will remember that till his/her life.Because physical wound you will get hurt on your leg,hands,face etc but spoken words will directly hit ones heart.


So control your anger and excitement and always think before you speak,especially to your closed ones(Because I know you don't want your closed ones to go away from you).

Remember that "You are Master of Unspoken Words and Slave of Spoken".

Yesterday Today Tomorrow

"Today" Do you regret having wasted your "Yesterday" in worrying about your "Tomorrow' or in regretting about the "Day before" ?
Well, then "Today" u aren't doing anything different from Yesterday And your Tomorrow will not be any different from your "Today" ..
"Today" is the "Tomorrow" you waited for "Yesterday"  Live in the present 
                                                                             ----Souvik Sarkar

"Don't fear your past, don't get scared of future and live your present" 

Friends

Friends give us the courage to lift the blinds on our heart, to open up and show what we generally keep hidden from the rest of the world.

"Don't Expect Your Friend To Be A Perfect Person" But "Help Your Friend To Become A Perfect Person"
Thats True Friendship!
---Mother Teresa

Change In You

It is told you should never choose a person as a life partner who tries to change you, he/she should accept you the way you are.



But please be careful about this sentence , Don't misunderstand this feeling between "You changing you" and "He/she changing you".



If you yourself feel like changing by his/her saying YOU SHOULD DEFINETLY CHANGE because you know from your corner of your heart that he/she is correct , but If you don't feel like changing even after his/her saying again and again, you better start looking for other.



If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it , change the way you think about it.
---Mary Engelbreit

 When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
---Victor Frankel

I don't deserve....

He is the one…
who wakes her up every morning,
who gets the dismal response,
who tries to motivate her always,
who wants her to be independent,
who wants her to be confident,
who wants to see her drive the scooty without any fear,
And he is the one who hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”.

He is the one…
who always thinks for her good,
who always thinks, takes care of her food,
who always thinks, takes care of her sleep,
who always takes care that she not weep,
And he is the one who hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”.

He is the one…
who wanted to spend some time with her,
who wanted to know her, really well before getting along,
who knows about all her past,
who does not want to get compared to them,
who is still examined,
And he is the one who still hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”.

He is the one…
who hates to wait,
who still waits long, only for her,
who sacrifices his likes, only to keep her in priority,
who is losing connections, all only for her,
who does not care of his pains, for her routine,
And he is the one who still hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”.

He is the one…
who thinks more about her career, than his,
who takes the leading step in building her future,
who gives her the platform, to achieve her goals,
who takes all decisions, keeping her in the center,
And he is the one who hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”.

He is the one…
who works till late, only to accompany her in the shifts,
who comes to office, at her timings,
who comes early to office, so that he can spend more time with her,
who leaves early from office,
so that she can reach home early,
so that she can eat properly,
so that she can sleep properly.
And she…
utilizes this time with her friends,
utilizes this time playing games on her phone.

And he…
still hears, “I don’t deserve a good girl”!

Strength and Weakness

"Sometimes, you don't realize your own strengths until someone tries to take advantage of your weaknesses." 

Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.

Intimacy

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!


With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.

Taken from
------- Pinoy Rap Radio

Positive Mind

One gradually attains tranquility of mind by keeping the mind fully absorbed in the Self by means of a well trained intellect and thinking of nothing else.

A man's own self is his friend. A man's own self is his foe.

A man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is

-Bhagavad Gita

Hardest Tasks

“The three hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats nor intellectual achievements, but moral acts: to return love for hate, to include the excluded, and to say, "I was wrong.” 


― Sydney J. Harris, Pieces Of Eight

Between you and God

"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway
If you are kind,people may accuse you of  ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness,people may feel jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world best you have and it may never be enough.Give your best anyway.
For you see ,in the end , it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."

-Mother Teresa

All of a Sudden

All of a sudden 
On my bike… way back from dinner…
The sky looked clear and light cold breeze was kissing my face,
My friends and I were enjoying the drive with the chatter,
I felt something wet on my face,
A drop!
I thought someone just spit ahead of me ,
Feeling annoyed and irritated, I was looking for the vehicle and direction from which it came.
And all of a sudden the drops multiplied, For a second I was furious 
But then I realized Yes, That was the RAIN!

All of a sudden it started raining so heavily, 
I covered myself with the hood attached on my shirt,
The rain drops were smacking, 
I could not see what is coming in front,
I tried protecting with one hand but still the drops somehow reached my eyes.
I slowed down so that it’s easy to apply brake 
I slowed down so that it’s easy to see what’s coming in front.
My house was near and I wished reaching soon,
And all parts of the roads were wet;
Water running down hither and thither,
All of a sudden, I started feeling that my vehicle was losing grip, And I slowed down more.
Got drenched from top to bottom hoping my mobile would work when I get down,

I started feeling cold thinking of the little warmth, If my girlfriend would have been there;
Somehow reached home fully drenched, 
Expecting my mom to open the door with a towel in hand.
With melancholy, I found the keys from my wallet and opened the door myself,
Removed my wet shoes and socks outside the door and entered my home, 
Came out again, thinking of someone taking it in my absence.
Went inside the room, dripping water from my clothes all over the floor, took a towel and dried myself.
Expecting my mom, giving me a boiled glass of water so that I do not get cold.
With a somber expression took a vessel, filled with water and headed towards the stove to boil it and just realized that gas cylinder just got empty a day before.

Helplessly with changed clothes I went to the balcony, again the same cold breeze came kissing my face.
With Night getting more dark, Clouds Thundering more and more with rain.
And all of a sudden a machine clashing sound took my attention towards the road opposite to the building.
A couple on the bike got down and ran towards our building for shelter but that heartless watchman didn’t allow them.
Without wasting a minute they ran towards a tree. That guy removed his jacket and both of them tried to hid under that jacket.
Trying to stay away from the rain drops and getting warmth as much as possible they got more close and stood waiting for the rain to stop.
Just beside that couple a mother was standing hugging his son, covering his head with her saree. Rubbing his hands and back again and again for the warmth.

And all of a sudden the door bell rung at my home, Thinking of who the person will be at this odd time in this heavy rain.

I opened the door and I smiled. :)

Get up when you fall

The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but 

in rising every time we fall. 

When i was younger, I used to ski and i always prided myself on not falling, To me it was successful day, if i didn't wipe out . That's just common sense right? Yes and No. I wasn't taking  any chances or risks. I wasn't hurting myself, but i also wasn't improving my skills. I think it's like that in life You can't live you life encased in a bubble.You need to take chances, and risks , an step out on that proverbial limb. Sometimes you're going to be successful, and sometimes you're not. The thing is your success is not or should not be measured on of you fail. It should be measured by how you react to that failure. Do you give up and never try again. or do you much like the phoenix, rise up fro the ashes, stronger and ready to try again.

Heck, you may not rise up stronger - that's okay, what matters is that you keep rising. keep getting up and keep trying, over and over again. That is the way to live your life.

– Nelson Mandela

Life is all about perspective

If you are uncomfortable with the way things are, Re-frame it . Even something huge can  look really small. Life is all about perspective.
-Hrithik Roshan

We cannot fast forward time to know if its worth it .Trust your heart and hope everything turns right.

New Friends

Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day.
- Dalai Lama

Each day holds a surprise. But only if we expect it can we see, hear, or feel it when it comes to us. Let's not be afraid to receive each day's surprise, whether it comes to us as sorrow or as joy It will open a new place in our hearts, a place where we can welcome new friends and celebrate more fully our shared humanity.
- Henri Nouwen

Each and Every day is a new beginning. 
Some times there are some situations on which you cannot decide right or wrong. We always thinks we are the right on what we have understood , at such times a person who is neutral to both is needed for right decision.A person whom you don't know much but you feel he might be correct. A person who doesn't think similar to you. A person who can think matured and to get so many qualities from one person is very difficult.So why need one person,  take opinion from many and let the decision be yours.

Get to know more people ,Make new friends share your feelings  with them and feel your life very light.

The best things in life are free

It is far too often that we seek material rewards that cost money. There are wonderful things in life that are free. A hug, a kiss, a walk, the sunlight, the sun set, good memories – these things can make you smile. Do not underestimate them or forget that they exist. Find time to appreciate these gifts and place value in them because these things, as little as they may be, can make life extremely fulfilling if you know what they’re worth.

I’ve decided to make this week better than last, all because I know I have that choice and I deserve it. People can always say that it’s easier said than done but I have faith and I believe that things will get better; that my life will get better and that all I need to do is to make it better.

I have made my choice. I ask you to do the same. Make your choice and choose to be happy!.

Every day is a new beginning

For as long as you’re alive, each day presents new opportunities. So, yesterday may not have been great but what you do today can make a world of a difference.Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life.You have a choice to make that difference. Use it wisely.

Become who you are

It's okay to let some things go :You need to understand that none of us are playing with marked cards; sometimes we win and sometimes we lose – life always finds its balance.  Don’t expect to get back everything you give, don’t expect recognition for all your efforts, and don’t expect your genius to be instantly discovered or your love to be understood by everyone.  As you live and experience things, you must recognize what works and what doesn’t, what belongs and what doesn’t, and then let things go when you know you should.  Not out of pride, inability, or arrogance, but simply because not everything is supposed to fit into your life.  Close the door, change the record, clean the house, get rid of the dust.  Stop being who you were so you can become who you are.
- Marc and Angel Hack Life

Own Unique War

We are all in this together: Nobody has it easy, we all have issues.  When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story.  Everyone has gone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow.  Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours.  You will never know exactly what they are going through, and they will never know exactly what you are going through.  We are all fighting our own unique war.  But we are fighting through it simultaneously, together.

-Marc and Angel Hack Life

Tough times are necessary

Tough time help us grow: We work hard to disown the parts of our lives that were painful, difficult, or sad. But just as we can’t rip chapters out of a book and expect the story to still make sense, so we cannot rip past chapters out of our lives and expect our lives to still make sense. Keep every chapter of your life intact, and keep on turning the pages. Sooner or later you’ll get to a page that brings it all together and you’ll suddenly understand why every page and chapter before it was needed.
-Marc and Angel Hack Life

Smile When You Can

There are reasons to smile all around you : A teenage girl blushed when I caught her playfully tickling her boyfriend as he looked for a book in the library – I smiled.  A middle aged man got down on his knees and lovingly scratched his dog behind the ears as they waited to cross the street – I smiled.  A little girl skipped in bright white shoes that were obviously new, happily kicking her feet far out in front of her to admire them – I smiled.  On days when you don’t have much in your life to smile about, watch those who do and you'll smile too.
- March and Angel Hack Life

Memories

I think the only reason everyone holds on to memories so tightly is because memories
are the only things that don't change when everything and everyone else does.

As Everyone says "Things End but memories last forever"

Make Mistakes

-Never be afraid of mistakes.A mistake is not a failure.Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly.
-Discover the power of making mistake.
-If you want to succeed, triple the amount of mistakes that you make.
-"A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new"
                                                                             -Albert Einstein(Lesson 5)

Fear

There is always a direct link between FEAR and SUCCESS.
If one needs SUCCESS,One should fear his/her FEAR and always try to overcome that FEAR and keep that attitude of overcoming FEAR throughout because SUCCESS is just behind that FEAR.

Life

Live Life as well as Love Life; for if you love life, you will realize life is not all about living ;Living and Loving together makes life Lovely and Lively
                                                      -SoUvIk SaRkAr

Attitude

We cannot control what happens to us, but we can control our ATTITUDE towards what happens to us and in that , we  will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master us.

Words

No one can touch words, But words do touch one's heart & soul.

We are masters of our unspoken words and slaves of our spoken words.